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女性の育て方、が分からない…

女性の育て方が、分からない…
そんな悩みを持ちながら、長いこと、たつ。


ひとを育てる、ということは、人生観がない人間にはできないと思う。
どんなふうに育つべきなのか、という持論がないと無理だと思うのだ。
外面ばかりはそこそこにできても、肝心の芯にまったく手の出せない教育しかできないから。

そんな前提を置きながら、自分の場合を振り返ってみる。
男をどう鍛えるか、は分かるつもりなのだけれど、女をどう鍛えるのか、が、まるでわからない…。
何かが、違う。

そんなことを感じつつ生きていたら、このあいだ、ふっ、と浮かんだ。
男と女の強さは違うのだ、ということが。

男の強さは「硬さ」だと思う。
対して女の強さは「柔らかさ」だと思うのだ。

…すけべな表現、と怒られるかもしれないけれど、そうではなくて、きっといきものとして、そういった両面をもつことが人間の生物としての強さとしてあると思うのだ。

男は、硬くあるべき。
そのために、鋼を鍛えるがごとく、熱し、叩きのめす。うまくやれば、同時にしなやかさや切れ味も身につける。でも本質は、硬さに向かう方向に、強さがあると思う。日本刀のような世界に、男の道ってあると思う。
そして、女と比べて生来持っている、バカ体力やバカ鈍感さが、そのような鍛える方向に役に立つ。
もちろん、柔よく剛を制す、という言葉もあるように、「柔」を強さとして持つ男はいる。でもやっぱり、信念、など、硬い、と思うのだ。

対して女は、柔らかさ、に強さがあると思う。体力とか鈍感さは男にどうしても届かないけれど、その逆方向に、男は届かない世界がある。
うまく表現できるほど、分析できていないけれど…

なんていうか、柔らかい強さ、が見える気がするのだ。
それが見えきらないうちは、女の子の育て方に迷い続けてしまうのかもしれない…


でも、そんな硬さや柔らかさの向こう側に、きっと、ほんとうの何かがあると思う。僕にはまだ見えないけれど。それをつかむことが、一番大切。人間存在としての、男とか女とかを超えた底にある、強さ。
近い未来に、それを、つかんでみたい。

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こんにちは。

アイキューブの榎本愛です。

女性を育てる
まるでお父さんみたいです。
難しい表現ですね。
その女性は未熟なのでしょうか?
そうでなければ、育てるっていう表現は、なんかしっくりこないです。

ご無沙汰しております。

女性の強さのひとつに
「柔軟性」があるかと思います。

「柔らかさ」や「しなやかさ」にも似ていますが
考えた方やモノの見方が男性よりも多面的で
臨機応変な対応が可能なように感じます。

こちらがダメだと判れば、また別の方向からトライする
そんな「しぶとさ」が女性の良さではないでしょうか?

はじめまして。
友人のマイミク欄を見てやってきました。
私の実感ですが、女性はうまく放置しておけば、それなりに育つと思います。

育てる方も迷ってるんですね。

男性は鍛え方が女性と違うっていうの、気づきませんでした。いつも自分基準に考えてしまいます。へぇぇ!

みなさんコメントをありがおとうございます

> kikiさん

「柔軟性」はいい表現だな、とおもいました。
イメージは悪い表現ですが、「しぶとさ」とかもある気がします。

いのちに触れる職業についていて思いますが、男はぽっきり折れると、もう、だめですね。でも女性は柔軟に、生きていけますよね。体は弱いけれど、生きることには強い。

柔軟性。
うん、まねできません…。

> ashさん

団体の代表なんてやっていると、「放置」というのはありえないのですよね(涙
積極的に手をだしていかないと、いけない。
でも、積極的に手を出すのではなく、耳を傾けることが女性に対しては重要だとはよくきく。
でも、耳を傾ける余力なんて、僕にはない…

悩ましいです…

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